It’s funny. The things you remember. I went to see the new Footloose with Holly. I love the original movie. The dancing and music really stand out to me and make me want to dance. It is hard to listen to the title song and not want to shimmy and shake.
I totally forgot the premise of why dancing was outlawed in the movie. The death of a son, brother, friend. I have to admit I was a little frozen for parts of the movie. I forgot the happiness in the movie was preceded by sorrow that tore people apart.
The last few weeks have been rough, but also special. Birthdays, basketball games, I got to take Kellen to be fitted for his homecoming tux, Maddie off to college, Kellen breaking his leg (missing his homecoming). My mom and a sister had milestone birthdays this month.
I feel an intense need to be with everyone on their birthday this year. And true to my nature I have been trying to figure out why.
Is it because I don’t want any of us to feel our birthday is less than? That would be rather egotistical, like I can really make up for Steve being gone.
Am I trying to figure out what it will feel like? Later this year it will be my turn. My birthday missing Steve. So, what does it look like, feel like? Maybe I can lessen the blow by easing into it, watching other birthdays. I hope that is not what I am doing, it is creepy and voyeuristic.
So what does this have to do with Footloose. This movie is about creating a time to dance, giving ourselves permission to dance, even after a tragedy. One of the memories of Steve I think of a lot is him dancing at my wedding. And by dancing, I mean he turned in a circle. All the men lined up and danced one at a time to “I’m too sexy”. When it was his turn, I wondered what he would do. I am sure this was not in his comfort zone. But he went with it. He danced, and by dancing I mean turned in a circle. I think he even kept his hands in his pocket. That simple turn he did meant a lot to me. This was him dancing. We laughed and laughed. He could always make us laugh.
I am settling on wanting to help make it as happy a birthday as possible. I want us all to be able to dance on our birthdays.
(And I am probably watching. I prefer to call it being observant over voyeuristic. It’s my blog so I can call it what I want.)